Parent Considerations
What Intended Parents Consider When Choosing a Surrogate
We’ll be asking you what you’re looking for in an intended parent match, and intended parents get to answer all those fun questions, too! Surrogacy agencies get to know all about intended parents so they can match them with their “just right” surrogate.
Along the surrogacy application and matching journey, we’ll dig a little deeper to get to the good stuff to find a great match. Naturally intended parents want a surrogate who is healthy and has had smooth sailing in her pregnancies, but there’s more to it than that.
To better understand what might make you someone’s ideal surrogate, here’s a deep dive into the six things intended parents will want to know more about.
Your Support System
Being a surrogate is a big commitment, and intended parents want to be sure you’re surrounded by family and friends who will be your cheerleading squad, impromptu babysitters, travel partners, and designated shoulders to lean or cry on.
Your Reasons for Choosing Surrogacy
Just as you want to hear what brought the intended parents to surrogacy to build their family, they want to hear what made YOU choose to help someone. We encourage you to be open and honest about your story. There’s no such thing as TMI; your story makes you amazing!
Your Lifestyle Choices
Think about your day-to-day life. Do you have any hobbies? What do you like to do on the weekends? Have you seen Taylor Swift in concert (just kidding…sort of!)? Be prepared to share all those little nuggets to help them see if you will mesh.
Your Hopes for Communication
We’ll be sure to find out what type of relationship you’re looking for with your intended parents throughout your journey. This is also something intended parents are interested in learning more about to help them get a feel for what a journey with you could be like. When you have that first video meeting, this is a great topic to chat about: the type of communicator you are (Phone call? Text? DMs?) and your thoughts on parent involvement during the surrogacy.
Your Chemistry
For this one, you’ll need to have agreed to at least meet via video call to explore the possibility of a match. But the energy and vibe of that call can seal the deal for intended parents. Ultimately, like when establishing any relationship, intended parents want to ensure you are a personality match. This will be a long journey together; everyone wants the best time possible along the way, and matching with the right people can make that journey so much more rewarding.
Plus, both intended parents and surrogates will tell you they just KNEW it was the right match – it’s a feeling you’ll get!
Your Personal Preferences
You may have outstanding questions you want answered from intended parents, and so will they. It’s really nice to be able to talk openly and without judgment about things like religious preferences, sexual orientation preferences, intended parents who live in the U.S. versus international intended parents, or even how you feel about certain vaccines. At the top of the list is also being honest about your views on termination should you be faced with making that decision should you or baby’s health be at risk. We know these aren’t easy conversations to have, but we encourage you to be as honest as possible; your honesty will help ensure you’re paired with your right match!
So while agencies need to ask personal and specific questions, there’ IS a good reason behind the prying. Each question is designed to bring you closer to exactly what you want — a happy and fulfilling surrogacy journey!
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