Sweet Surrogacy Gifts: Ideas for Surrogates & Intended Parents
July 2, 2025
Surrogacy is such a beautiful, emotional journey! Naturally, it’s common to want to show extra appreciation for the person walking this path with you. Whether you're a surrogate wishing to surprise your intended parents or an intended parent seeking a way to say "thank you" to your surrogate, a thoughtful gift can help deepen your connection. To make things easier, we've gathered some of our favorite gift ideas—simple, heartfelt, and meaningful!
Gift for Intended Parents From Surrogates
Sometimes, a small gesture says everything. Here are a few ways surrogates have surprised their intended parents with thoughtful gifts:
Personalized Baby Items: Custom onesies, embroidered baby blankets, or even a framed ultrasound image make sweet keepsakes.
A Journal or Letter: Write a heartfelt letter or create a small journal sharing your pregnancy experience. Many intended parents treasure these personal reflections forever.
Matching Bracelets or Necklaces: Jewelry with the baby's birthstones or initials can be a meaningful way to honor your unique connection.
A “First Holiday” Ornament: If you're carrying around the holidays, a custom ornament can celebrate the journey and the baby’s upcoming arrival.
Memory Book or Scrapbook: Include pictures, appointment cards, and notes about milestones along the way. It's a beautiful way to document this shared chapter!
Gifts for Surrogates
Surrogates give so much of themselves—time, energy, and love. A small gift is a powerful way to show that you see her and appreciate her sacrifice and strength.
Spa Day or Massage Gift Certificate: Pregnancy is hard on the body. A little pampering goes a long way!
Personalized Jewelry: A necklace with the baby’s due date or initials, an infinity symbol, baby footprints, or even a "Proud Surrogate" charm—something she can wear and commemorate the journey.
A Thoughtful Care Package: Include her favorite snacks, cozy socks, candles, and maybe a Netflix gift card for binge-watching during bed rest.
A Surrogacy Journal: There are beautiful journals out there made specifically for surrogates. She can track milestones, thoughts, and memories.
A Handwritten Letter or Card: Never underestimate the power of heartfelt words! A note from you (and even one from your partner or other family members) can mean more than anything bought in a store.
While a small gift or two during the journey is a wonderful idea, don't forget about the period after you bring your baby home. This postpartum phase can be bittersweet for a surrogate, so showing that you still value her contribution to your family at this time can be especially meaningful.
Transfer Day Gift Ideas
Transfer day is a big, emotional moment—kind of like the start of a new chapter. Whether you're the surrogate or the intended parent, a small token can make the day feel even more special.
Gifts for Surrogates on Transfer Day
Cozy socks (perfect for transfer day vibes!)
A small bouquet with baby’s breath
A “sticky thoughts” gift box filled with encouragement
For more inspiration, check out our transfer day rituals page, where you'll find traditions, ideas, and stories from others in the community who've found sweet ways to mark the moment.
A Final Thought
Remember, it’s not about the size or price of the gift. It’s about the love behind it. Whether it’s a simple thank-you card or a personalized keepsake, what really matters is the connection you’re building with each other.
This journey is emotional, vulnerable, and full of heart. Taking the time to celebrate each other—even in small ways—helps make it all the more meaningful. In the end, the most cherished gift is the one that comes from the heart!