WHY DO I WANT TO BE A SURROGATE MOTHER?
By: A Surrogate Mother
I first learned about surrogate motherhood
when I watched the Deidra Hall movie. It was all about the stuff she
went through to try to have a baby. (Years and years of shots,
surgeries, and all the unsuccessful tries to become pregnant.) She
ended up having a surrogate mother carry a baby (actually 2, she had
a second one later) for her.
Then, when my sister-in-law told me that she had gone to her doctor and he told her that she would have a high rate of miscarriage, I remembered the movie. I thought that if she couldn't have a baby, I could carry it for her.
Well, luckily she got pregnant and carried it full term. She had a beautiful baby boy on March 11, 1997. After she got pregnant, I began to think, why not do this for someone else who might be in the same situation she was almost in.
When I talked to friends about what I wanted to do, I got a lot of support, but they all had their reasons why they wouldn't be a surrogate.
One smokes. Although she did cut way down while pregnant, she did not totally quit. She said, "If I didn't quit smoking for my baby, why would I do it for someone elses'.?" My other close friend had a really hard pregnancy. She was really sick and had some problems with her back. Plus, I know she wants more children. They all said they couldn't carry a baby for nine months and then give it away.
I thought, if everyone said that, than who would do this? I could do this for someone. I could make a difference in someone's life by helping them bring a miracle into this world.
A lot of people wouldn't, and a lot of people couldn't (for medical reasons, etc.) But, I meet the requirements. I don't smoke. I very rarely drink. I got pregnant on the very first try with both of my boys, and overall, I had easy pregnancies.
I did get a little nauseous in the beginning of my pregnancies, but not as bad as some people. Plus, I LOVED being pregnant!! Most of my friends complained during pregnancy. Of course, I did a little bit (about being tired, etc), but I just loved feeling a baby move inside me. It was the most incredible feeling.
As I was feeling my baby move inside me. I thought, I could be pregnant forever. But, I don't want any more children. My husband and I are very happy with our two boys. We have decided not to have any more children. I think about how lucky I am that I got pregnant so easy. My kids are my life. I love them more than words can say and I can't image my life without them!
I think that as a girl growing up, we all take for granted that we will meet someone special, get married, then have a family.
I can't imagine how it must feel to want to have a baby so bad, and not be able to. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't have children.
I know this may sound corny, but maybe I was meant to do this for someone. I was given this gift of being able to conceive very easily & carry a child. I want to help someone who can't.
February 1998
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